Things to Not Forget

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Fall has officially arrived! Football is in full swing, the air is crisp, the leaves are changing, but these aren't quite the tell tale signs that autumn has arrived for me. What is it, you ask? It's the taste of a Starbucks pumpkin spice latte lingering on my tongue. I'm typically too cheap to buy coffee from Starbucks, but I just can't resist the PSL. I normally wouldn't even pull over to stop just at a Starbucks, it's the Starbucks inside other stores (read: Target) that get me. My weakness is always exposed when I go into a Target and the demon on my left shoulder tells me, "Well, you're already here..." I payed $3.50 for a tall PSL on Wednesday, and nearly $5 for a grande last week (it was early in the AM...I needed it.). AND while I was there, I discovered they make a pumpkin spice frozen frappuccino! I don't know if that's a new thing, but I definitely didn't know they made a PSL in FF form. It was too late to change my order once I made my discovery but, next time...

So, on the side of Starbuck's cups they have these "The Way I See It" quotes, insight and quotes from CEOs and businessmen. On one of my cups I had #296, which got me thinking. Here's what it said: "By the time executives get married, take on a mortgage, raise kids, cope with the crabgrass, climb the corporate ladder, do their best to manage career pressures, build their net worth and get into their 40s, they've lost touch with what they believe in and care about most deeply."

Because of the nature of my career choices, I'm not necessarily concerned with climbing the corporate ladder or selling my soul to increase my net worth, but I do worry about getting sucked into adulthood and responsibility. I want kids to encourage my youthfulness, not overwhelm me with the burden of authority. Already, I occasionally feel like I have no memory of high school or what I was like when I was thirteen. Sure, there's a maturation process that occurs and adults aren't meant to think like children, but children aren't meant to think like adults either, so all of those little things they do that seem ridiculous or immature or self-centered: that's exactly how they're supposed to think and act at the time. Don't over-expect of them, a time for maturity will come later.

So, I've decided to keep a running list of things I don't want to forget as I get older and have children:

1. It's okay to sleep in until noon on a Saturday. They'll eventually have too much to do and their bodies will physically not allow this, so let them enjoy it for awhile.

2. Flirting with boys is fun. Giggling and whispering about them is normal, not annoying. Play MASH with them and that paper fortune teller game.

3. There used to be time in my life where the only thing I needed to make me happy was an Amy Grant tape and a baby doll.

4. It's okay to skip class in 12th grade. That's what senior year is about. Don't forget, you did it (even if it was just gym class) and your mom was cool about it.

5. There's like a 900% chance they won't marry their first boyfriend/girlfriend, so don't let it get too out of hand, but stress out too much.

6. Being a huge brat at five won't necessarily last forever... Maybe another ten years or so, but not forever.

7. Yes, there are more important things and bigger events will come and go, but really, she needs a great prom dress. It IS a big deal.

8. When you drop them off at college for the first time, they're sad too.

9. Remember how fun it was to stay at the pool for hours on end, even with stinging red eyes and pool feet?

10. A time will come where kissing a boy on the lips is almost habit. Let them revel in the magic while it's still magical.

What are some thoughts and memories from your childhood that you don't want to forget as you get older? Parents, how do you stay in touch with your inner child? Do you ever struggle to remember what you were like at their age?

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